How much do you value yourself?


Sometimes people don’t see the value in getting help for themselves and instead feel outraged by needing to pay. So how much do you value yourself?

What are your unconscious beliefs and how important is caring for yourself?

One problem is that people have become conditioned to having much of our medical treatment free or very heavily subsidised.

So let’s be clear, I am stating facts, not whinging. I am a qualified health professional, charging comparable but slightly lower fees than those who are subsidised by Medicare. Government does not pay for hypnotherapy although I am covered by most of the private health funds (not Bupa).

What I do for anxiety, stress and PTSD costs $1,300, takes 3-4 sessions plus a follow up after 2-3 months and is highly effective. It is quick, gentle and most importantly it works. I do not get people to go back over things that are best forgotten and I do allow split payments. I use a special hypnotic process called TRTP or The Richards Trauma Process, which has remarkable results.

The usual subsidised Cognitive Behavioural Therapy treatment or talking therapy takes months, re-traumatises the client every visit and the cost to Government is commonly around $13,000. Ten times more for a worse result. You choose.

What is the value in getting rid of your anxiety, sleeping better, becoming healthier, losing ongoing underlying anger in less than a month without revisiting things you would rather forget?

What would you do if your car broke down, or your fridge? Would you decide it was worth finding the money? Or would you say the price was outrageous and leave it broken?

What is the value in helping YOU?

Sometimes it happens that people feel shocked about the cost of healing themselves. The question is really… How much do you value yourself?

So many clients come to me with the unconscious beliefs that “I don’t matter” and a background of putting themselves last. These feelings have built up throughout their childhood and then are carried on and built up in their adult life.

This belief allows you to be neglected, bullied, to come last in the family’s expenditures.

You don’t matter enough to spend money on getting help for you. You need to spend that money on a new phone or for expensive presents for your kids. There isn’t any left for you to spend on yourself. Has it occurred to you that the best gift for your kids would be a parent who is no longer anxious, angry or unpredictable?

So I return to the first question – how much do you value yourself?

 

Why hypnotherapy


I think most people reading this blog already know that I am a hypnotherapist, so why hypnotherapy? I specialise in working with people who want to change habits or to overcome confidence issues, procrastination, anxiety and my biggest love is working with people who suffer from major stress like PTSD.

90% of your mind is unconscious and it controls everything… all your habits, your beliefs, your fears and your health. It is the boss and others mostly programmed it as we grew up.

Your parents started programming your beliefs even before you were born and your family, your friends, your teachers, neighbours, sports coaches and many others have been adding to this ever since.

Hypnosis is simply a relaxed state when you are able to let your busy conscious mind to drift so that you can change things in your unconscious mind. You have been hypotised many times all your life. This is what TV commercials, politicians, and movies do all the time when you are vegged out in front of the TV.

I remember an occasion when I was called to the phone leaving my youngest grandson watching TV. While I was out of the room he changed the channel to one screening Dennis the Menace. After 10 minutes of that program he became Dante the Menace! Be careful what you let your kids watch and play. The favourite kids game at present is Fortnight and is MUCH to violent for me so what it does to kids I shudder to think. No wonder there is so much violence on our streets these days.

The result of all these inputs through your life is where each of you is right now. It can be hard to change.

A simple self-hypnotic habit is to listen to your own thoughts. Do you put yourself down and bully yourself? Do you ever say I “can’t” do that, “I am going to fail”, “ I am so stupid” etc. etc. etc? If this is happening you should catch and change it each time. “I am not stupid… just a bit inattentive and I can fix that”. The same is true for all the others. Change those thoughts and make them positive.

Hypnotherapy uses hypnosis to help you make positive changes that you find difficult to make consciously. You let me know, briefly in dot points preferably, the major things that have happened in your life plus you tell me what you want to move from and to. That way you give me an insight into those unconscious beliefs that are causing you problems so that I can help you to change them.

Procrastination is something that affects so many people and it is often either a general lack of confidence and also being a square peg in a round hole especially in the workplace where your unconscious mind does not believe you can complete the task effectively or in the time frame allocated. I help people to clear those underlying self-doubts so that they can move forward.

Yes I do help people to change habits like smoking very quickly and easily in only one session in almost all cases. If you know smokers who want to quit send them to me please. You do both of us a favour. I can fit in a FEW more before Christmas but don’t waste too much time thinking about coming.

When you complain…


When you complain, you make yourself a victim.

You have 3 choices,

  • Leave the situation,
  • change the situation,
  • or accept it.

All else is madness. It leads you to stress and anxiety.

I help people to stop being victims by changing the way that they feel so that the situation changes and so do the other people in it because the relationships change and so does the power within the relationships.

They build an emotional shield around themselves so that other people’s dramas don’t matter.

And they have the strength to get rid of toxic people.

People are able to dramatically change, so long as they want to and don’t have a secondary benefit from being a victim.

People are able to object and fight to change the situation… this takes strength and the first step is to stop being a victim.

If you know people who complain a lot as well as those who have given up and are being bullied please let them know that I can help them.

Have you thought through what is important?


I am in the process of moving house and sorting through what is important. My old house is sold and settlement and moving day is on October 26th. The new place is a unit and much smaller so over 50% of my belongings need to go.

In many ways this exciting and it will be a relief to have a smaller house with less maintenance, gardening and cleaning. In other ways there are decisions to be made and grief associated with parting with some long time possessions.

Why does this matter to you? Well it is so like life. We need to move on, discard things, ideas and habits that we no longer need so that we have room for an exciting new future. It is a process of working through what is important.

A large part of what people come to me for help with is actually about deciding what habits and thoughts are important to them versus what they really want to discard. There is sometimes grief about parting with long term habits and this is where I have the skills to help you to work directly with your unconscious mind to make the process so much easier.

I have found that I have been clinging to things my parents had in my early childhood that I don’t use or even really like but it is hard to actually make that break. An example is a small red china cat with a broken and glued neck that has made it into the rubbish bin many times over the years but I have always dug out again.

People’s unwanted habits are very like this.

It’s interesting and I am having fun reflecting on it while I heave things around and put them into bins, boxes and bags.

If you are having problems parting with habits, behaviours, anxieties and weight, call me for help.

Yes, I am still working with clients right through this moving process. Apart from 3 days around the end of October, I have 2-3 places available every day. Just book in and find a time that suits you, or call me on 83659513 if you can’t find a time and I will make a time fit you in.

This is why stress makes you put on weight


When early humans lived in caves there were two main threats in their lives – cold and starvation. Our bodies evolved to cope with this by storing fat to feed and insulate us and this is why stress makes you put on weight

The storage of food was even more important for women so they could feed their children.

Unfortunately our metabolism has not evolved to keep up with our modern life and our unconscious mind’s main job is to manage our metabolism so that it keeps us safe.

In our modern day life any form of stress and overwhelm is seen by our bodies as a threat or danger and unless we are a hunter who needs to be able to run fast, we store fat to keep ourselves safe.

Diets don’t work because they are starvation and also stressful. And what a surprise – a new exercise program is felt by our bodies to be stressful.

Guess what… the long-term response is to store more fat.

Earlier in my life I had a huge amount of stress, especially around 15-20 years ago. My weight went up to 95kgs and I battled with it for several years until I did the extra training in stress and anxiety relief.

I now weigh 72kgs… much more comfortable to live with and as well as my old PTSD gone I have a very comfortable and healthy relationship with food so I lost the excess weight without consciously trying.

I use 5 hypnosis sessions over 2 months to both help overweight people deal with the stresses in their lives and also to change their relationship with food and eating. Where someone is suffering from major stress I sometimes do 6 sessions at no extra cost.

This is having great results and I would love to hear from people who battle with their weight and want to shape up now for summer.

Spring will make you reflect on your weight name


Its spring and this time of year will make you reflect on your weight as you shed your winter woollies and try to dress for warmer weather.

Are you one of the many who added a few extra kilos of insulation during winter? So what do you do now?

Diets do not work… they make your problem worse because your body believes that you are starving and makes sure it stores more fat after the diet finishes in case there is another famine. Repeated diets simply increase your weight over time as your body fights to protect you from ongoing famine.

Our metabolism evolved to suit cave people who stored fat in their bodies when they were threatened by either cold or famine. We are not going to change our basic metabolism and physiology but we can change our mindset and our habits.

Studies show that Hypnosis is 40% more successful in achieving long-term weight loss than any other method.

The thing is that hypnosis allows you to change your unconscious beliefs and your habits about food and eating. This results in steady weight loss and maintenance of a healthy weight over a long time.

I use five sessions over two months to help you to make these changes in unconscious beliefs and in habits. This program changes your entire relationship with food and that achieves results.

Shortcuts do not work. Diets put on more weight over time. We all know about yo-yo dieting. It is fabulous for selling magazines as people search for the latest version.

Stomach surgery comes with huge problems and often doesn’t work. I have had several clients who have done this then a few years later come to me for help. One had a massive infection and needed to have his surgery reversed, others simply put weight back on again because they have not changed their unconscious beliefs and their food habits.

It is possible to eat a tub of ice cream slowly, or a liquidised Big Mac. It is very difficult to swallow healthy food like meat so people often find their protein content decreases.

DON”T do this!

Just book in to my 5-session program because this gives you a good long-term result.

This is a general newsletter covering varied aspects of the relationship between your mind and your body.

This is why stress is so harmful


Modern lives are busy and so many of you are overworked with too much that you have to fit in all the time. There is very little time out or ‘me time” to allow you to recover.

If you are like my family, my friends and my clients you are probable often feeling overwhelmed by the constant pressure and stress.

All the information or “stuff” that arrives in your head goes to part of your brain called your hippocampus to be sorted and catalogued. Your hippocampus is your librarian.

When too much happens at once, you become overwhelmed and things don’t get filed so your brain triggers the fight, flight or freeze response. You may become angry, you may want to run away or even freeze so nothing gets done. Stress is so harmful.

Your body gets flooded with cortisol and adrenalin, you no longer digest your food properly and you forget things, often important things.

If you recognise this and take time out to settle and recover you will get through the problem. That fight, flight, freeze response is there to move you away from a problem fast.

However if you don’t or can’t slow down and return to calm, this stress builds up and makes you ill. If you continue being overwhelmed for months or years and your body cannot fight the cause and escape, it turns on itself causing illness. People even develop cancer, autoimmune diseases or suicide.

Many people self medicate with smoking, alcohol or drugs and others self harm because the pain of cutting themselves distracts them from their emotional pain.

This is why stress is so harmful.

If you or someone around you is suffering from this sort of stress you or they need help urgently before it gets worse. This is the area I specialise in. I help people to recover gently, rapidly and very effectively.

You carry stress in your whole body, not just in your brain. Every cell becomes stressed. If you are going to recover your whole body must know that the problem is over, the danger has passed and you are safe and that you were empowered to fix the root of the problem.

90% of your mind is unconscious and it controls everything that happens in your body. It is distributed throughout your body and controls every cell, every chemical reaction, every hormone, every part of your brain and your body.

The reason the special hypnotic process I use is so effective is that it allows your logical mind to drift so that you can work with your unconscious mind. When you work with your unconscious mind you can calm down, sort out problems, change the way your mind sees the past and you can make remarkable changes in your life.

Both quantum physics and also MRI scans of the brain prove that the brain cannot tell the difference between something that you strongly imagine and something that actually happens. This is a tool elite athletes have used for years. Yes you can change things in your mind and this changes your life.

If you are suffering from anxiety, stress or depression or you know someone who is please call me to get it sorted out before it goes on getting worse and making them suffer more.

Einstein said “A cluttered desk is the sign of a busy mind …


Einstein said… “A cluttered desk is the sign of a busy mind so what do we take from an empty desk?”

At present I am selling my house and need to be very uncluttered so that I can be out of my house to allow the agents to have open inspections and people coming through. In particular this means having an empty desk!

Oh my goodness, the impact of a minimal house and an empty desk is horrendous! I can’t find things and it is really hard to get started on my normal tasks

Yes I can still work effectively with clients because I have everything I need stashed away where I can get it out easily but writing newsletters is a challenge. I feel comfortable and creative when my normal clutter surrounds me. Then I look at my empty desk and I feel blank which is why I did not write a newsletter last week.

My kitchen is pretty blank and uncluttered also. The bench-tops only contain a microwave, electric jug and my coffee machine. I am making sure the fridge has a selection of healthy stuff to cook so the blankness doesn’t flow into my meals.

My son visited me three weeks ago to assist in the tidy up and downsizing. He has finally taken things of his that I have lugged around for almost 30 years but when he was washing up after dinner he wanted the sink plug… These were put away somewhere of course.

I still need lots of clients please to keep my mind busy and normal and overcome the blank. So if you know people who need my services please do both them and me a service and send them to me. This is especially for all those of you who have come to me for very successful outcomes.

How do you cope when it all gets too much?


When it all gets too much you simply feel overwhelmed and this happens to all of us.

The trick is to put our hands out for help when this happens. If you don’t, your stress builds up and can cause major issues and illness over time. A large part of my work is about helping people who are overwhelmed and suffering the anxiety, stress or depression that this causes.

Being part of a community is a huge help as I can report only too well this week. I am selling my house and downsizing and this process is very overwhelming. Half my belongings have to go to let me fit sensibly in the new house I have chosen.

Thanks to several wonderful friends and my family I am nearly through this process. I have had help from painters, window cleaners, cleaners and gardeners to repair the impact daily life over time had on my house. It is done now and the house is being listed on the Internet today with its first open inspection on Saturday.

During this process it has been a very enjoyable to continue seeing clients who are much more seriously overwhelmed than me. Yes, even those with terrible traumas to sort out are a pleasure to see because of the difference that happens when they sort out the past.

As she left a recent client said “I don’t know how to thank you enough. After years of therapy I have always felt worse when I left than when I went. The other therapists just made me relive the traumas every time.

Now in only 4 sessions you have made me feel well! Plus I have quit smoking.

And after every session I went out feeling so good. So very much better than when I came in.

You are so different from the others.”

This is why I love what I do. It is more of a pleasure than simply work. I do NOT make people relive unpleasant things from the past. If you have been there once you don’t need to go back in your conscious mind.

I get you to use your imagination to dream up a theatre in your unconscious mind to sort out the problems from the past so that they are truly over and you are safe.

As I said earlier, being part of a community is a huge help when people are overwhelmed but many people need more than this and if this is the case for you or for someone you know, please send them to see me or at least get them to phone me for a chat.

Overwhelm can be caused by too much happening at once or by a build up of unpleasant things that have happened over years, even in early childhood. Our bodies hang on to that stress until we let it go and that is what I help you to do.

By the way, I am not going very far… from Tranmere across Glynburn Road to Glynde. It is just a smaller place. I don’t want a 3-bedroom house and big garden any more.

Don’t go on suffering. Just call me for help.

One moment everything is normal then suddenly…


One moment everything is normal then suddenly it changes.  It has happened and you are plunged into a whirl of fear, pain and bewilderment.

It may be a fall. A car accident, an out of the blue illness, a job loss, something happened to a friend or family member and suddenly life has changed.  You may have a few days or even weeks off but you need to get back to your daily survival, back on your normal treadmill.

Ok you seem fine now, you are back at work, you are feeling much more tired than usual, but there are things to do.  You must be over it by now!

But you are not over it.  Inside your body keeps the score.  Your cells are still holding that fear, pain and bewilderment.  The trauma is still there as buried stress or unexplained anger deep inside.  It doesn’t go away until you release it.

The fear and the overwhelm stop your Amygdala, that part of the brain that organises filing your memories, from working properly, so you don’t organise your memories which messes up your recall.

It is also normal to be angry and when that happens the frontal lobes of your brain are switched off so you are no longer thinking clearly and it is all about the anger.

All of this results in a lowered immune system.  You may go down with a heavy cold, asthma, excema, migraines or with more severe stress you may develop an autoimmune disease or even cancer.  Your body is trying to release the energy of that thing that happened by attacking your self because it can’t reach the cause.

Today I reviewed this article I wrote around 3 years ago after I had a bad fall taking out my wheelie bin.  What happens is important to understand so I am sharing it again.

That fall resulted in a compound fracture; actually splintered both the radius and the ulna in my left arm and the ulna broke through the skin.  I was in an ocean of pain, compounded by many hours waiting for treatment, transferring to another hospital, full of pain killers, anaesthetic, metal and screws.

Then I was home surviving.  Friends and family dropped in with meals, a wonderful neighbour helped with my dishes each morning, I was back working within a few days.

Yes I was coping but I was not healing properly. I developed asthma and excema and felt desperately tired until I took some time out for myself and I did self-hypnosis to release my trauma in the same way that I help clients. That worked as it does for clients.

Yes you can still hold your normal self together and manage for a few hours each day but inside you are not right yet.  You have simply buried all that pain and fear and must release it to prevent long-term problems.

When a wild animal has a trauma it releases this by trembling violently after the event.  Then it gets up and runs back to its previous life.  It is over.  Humans have lost the ability to do this and even if it did happen, some well meaning helper will try to stop them trembling.

Leading world experts state that two things must happen:

  • Your body has to somehow know that ‘it’s over’.
  • Your unconscious mind must feel empowered so that events do not overwhelm you

This is what I do using a special hypnotic process called TRTP. It is very quick, gentle and effective and it only takes 3-4 sessions, then I follow you up after 3 months to make sure you don’t have any minor issues left over.

If this rings a bell for you of for someone you know, please get in touch with me to get help as soon as possible.

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How much do you value yourself?

Sometimes people don’t see the value in getting help for themselves and instead feel outraged by needing to pay. So how much do you value yourself?

What are your unconscious beliefs and how important is caring for yourself?

One problem is that people have become conditioned to having much of our medical treatment free or very heavily subsidised.

So let’s be clear, I am stating facts, not whinging. I am a qualified health professional, charging comparable but slightly lower fees tha...

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I think most people reading this blog already know that I am a hypnotherapist, so why hypnotherapy? I specialise in working with people who want to change habits or to overcome confidence issues, procrastination, anxiety and my biggest love is working with people who suffer from major stress like PTSD.

90% of your mind is unconscious and it controls everything… all your habits, your beliefs, your fears and your health. It is the boss and others mostly programmed it as we grew up.

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When you complain…

When you complain, you make yourself a victim.

You have 3 choices,

  • Leave the situation,

  • change the situation,

  • or accept it.


All else is madness. It leads you to stress and anxiety.

I help people to stop being victims by changing the way that they feel so that the situation changes and so do the other people in it because the relationships change and so does the power within the relationships.

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