How do you cope when it all gets too much?


When it all gets too much you simply feel overwhelmed and this happens to all of us.

The trick is to put our hands out for help when this happens. If you don’t, your stress builds up and can cause major issues and illness over time. A large part of my work is about helping people who are overwhelmed and suffering the anxiety, stress or depression that this causes.

Being part of a community is a huge help as I can report only too well this week. I am selling my house and downsizing and this process is very overwhelming. Half my belongings have to go to let me fit sensibly in the new house I have chosen.

Thanks to several wonderful friends and my family I am nearly through this process. I have had help from painters, window cleaners, cleaners and gardeners to repair the impact daily life over time had on my house. It is done now and the house is being listed on the Internet today with its first open inspection on Saturday.

During this process it has been a very enjoyable to continue seeing clients who are much more seriously overwhelmed than me. Yes, even those with terrible traumas to sort out are a pleasure to see because of the difference that happens when they sort out the past.

As she left a recent client said “I don’t know how to thank you enough. After years of therapy I have always felt worse when I left than when I went. The other therapists just made me relive the traumas every time.

Now in only 4 sessions you have made me feel well! Plus I have quit smoking.

And after every session I went out feeling so good. So very much better than when I came in.

You are so different from the others.”

This is why I love what I do. It is more of a pleasure than simply work. I do NOT make people relive unpleasant things from the past. If you have been there once you don’t need to go back in your conscious mind.

I get you to use your imagination to dream up a theatre in your unconscious mind to sort out the problems from the past so that they are truly over and you are safe.

As I said earlier, being part of a community is a huge help when people are overwhelmed but many people need more than this and if this is the case for you or for someone you know, please send them to see me or at least get them to phone me for a chat.

Overwhelm can be caused by too much happening at once or by a build up of unpleasant things that have happened over years, even in early childhood. Our bodies hang on to that stress until we let it go and that is what I help you to do.

By the way, I am not going very far… from Tranmere across Glynburn Road to Glynde. It is just a smaller place. I don’t want a 3-bedroom house and big garden any more.

Don’t go on suffering. Just call me for help.

One moment everything is normal then suddenly…


One moment everything is normal then suddenly it changes.  It has happened and you are plunged into a whirl of fear, pain and bewilderment.

It may be a fall. A car accident, an out of the blue illness, a job loss, something happened to a friend or family member and suddenly life has changed.  You may have a few days or even weeks off but you need to get back to your daily survival, back on your normal treadmill.

Ok you seem fine now, you are back at work, you are feeling much more tired than usual, but there are things to do.  You must be over it by now!

But you are not over it.  Inside your body keeps the score.  Your cells are still holding that fear, pain and bewilderment.  The trauma is still there as buried stress or unexplained anger deep inside.  It doesn’t go away until you release it.

The fear and the overwhelm stop your Amygdala, that part of the brain that organises filing your memories, from working properly, so you don’t organise your memories which messes up your recall.

It is also normal to be angry and when that happens the frontal lobes of your brain are switched off so you are no longer thinking clearly and it is all about the anger.

All of this results in a lowered immune system.  You may go down with a heavy cold, asthma, excema, migraines or with more severe stress you may develop an autoimmune disease or even cancer.  Your body is trying to release the energy of that thing that happened by attacking your self because it can’t reach the cause.

Today I reviewed this article I wrote around 3 years ago after I had a bad fall taking out my wheelie bin.  What happens is important to understand so I am sharing it again.

That fall resulted in a compound fracture; actually splintered both the radius and the ulna in my left arm and the ulna broke through the skin.  I was in an ocean of pain, compounded by many hours waiting for treatment, transferring to another hospital, full of pain killers, anaesthetic, metal and screws.

Then I was home surviving.  Friends and family dropped in with meals, a wonderful neighbour helped with my dishes each morning, I was back working within a few days.

Yes I was coping but I was not healing properly. I developed asthma and excema and felt desperately tired until I took some time out for myself and I did self-hypnosis to release my trauma in the same way that I help clients. That worked as it does for clients.

Yes you can still hold your normal self together and manage for a few hours each day but inside you are not right yet.  You have simply buried all that pain and fear and must release it to prevent long-term problems.

When a wild animal has a trauma it releases this by trembling violently after the event.  Then it gets up and runs back to its previous life.  It is over.  Humans have lost the ability to do this and even if it did happen, some well meaning helper will try to stop them trembling.

Leading world experts state that two things must happen:

  • Your body has to somehow know that ‘it’s over’.
  • Your unconscious mind must feel empowered so that events do not overwhelm you

This is what I do using a special hypnotic process called TRTP. It is very quick, gentle and effective and it only takes 3-4 sessions, then I follow you up after 3 months to make sure you don’t have any minor issues left over.

If this rings a bell for you of for someone you know, please get in touch with me to get help as soon as possible.

Do you know the pattern in your life?


You have a pattern in your life, we all do and it is usually pre-set for us by our parents. It carries forward in our choices as adults… Until we STOP…

… Something happens that shakes us up and sometimes we realise… and we change our minds.

Here I am exposing myself by sharing my pattern. My father said no to my choice to do medicine and decided I must be a teacher. He signed me up on a bonded scholarship but I did manage to do a science degree with nearly all medical subjects..

After teaching for a while I “escaped” and got a job as a tutor in physiology at NSW University where I started doing a Master’s degree in neurophysiology. I married and husband no 1 decided it was ridiculous for me to complete my Master’s degree. He wanted me to go the Far North Queensland with him.

That marriage broke down leaving me with 3 small kids to support so I returned to teaching, back here in Adelaide. I hated it, was bullied and ended up with a nervous breakdown after 13 years.

Along the way I had two more husbands, first to someone who developed paranoid schizophrenia and became dangerous then to a narcissistic bipolar man. I can pick them!

After teaching I went back to University to retrain and although I wanted to use my credits from previous medical subjects to do physiotherapy, podiatry or psychology, my then husband (No. 3) absolutely objected to this so I did marine biology which was my hobby, great fun and fascinating but not the best choice to make a good living.

My pattern is clear

  • Being controlled or bullied then rebelling.
  • Dad controlled me, then 3 husbands… my brother’s still try to and get very hurt because I am “difficult”.

in time I found I had both breast cancer and PTSD.

I needed to re-program my mind. I stopped and asked myself – what makes my heart sing? So then I went back to my roots – to learn more about how our brain and our body work together. $30-40,000 extra training followed as I also changed my own life. I started with NLP and then Quit Smoking and I was running two separate businesses.

  • Quit smoking
  • Management systems consulting

As the Quit built up I did more Hypnotherapy training.  Then I discovered a brilliant hypnotic process that defeats the past and heals PTSD quickly without needing to consciously revisit things from the past. This transformed my life

My history helps my clients.  My story means I bring something very special to my work with clients…
…the ability to empathise, to sometimes share little bits of my story.

Clients feel safe sharing things with me that they have often never told anyone– then we can deal with their problems.

Overwhelmed clients recognise that I “get it”.

The biggest need every human has is to feel safe! All our emotions are felt and stored throughout our body and if you have been overwhelmed, your whole body is affected, which is why people so often become ill and 70% of illness is caused by stress.

You cannot feel safe unless your body knows that the past problems are over and YOU were empowered to do this. Then you are safe into the future.

Who is in control of you? 90% of your mind is unconscious and your unconscious mind controls your patterns, your habits and your physiology.
The thing is that your logical conscious mind cannot talk effectively to your body, which is why cognitive therapy takes years and often doesn’t work.

I work with your unconscious mind.

Anxiety, stress, & PTSD happen when you get over whelmed. It may be one horrendous event or may be years of ongoing overload

What ever the cause, the part of your brain that organises memories gets overwhelmed… and calls in help… Then you go into a fight, flight or freeze response.

You need help to recover. The memories of the event are never filed away… so they are always current and can’t be forgotten. Your stress is carried in your entire body. Pills and booze just dull it… They don’t fix it.

I have so many examples of recovery from Trauma but here is one.
A young Aussie girl in her early 20 was grabbed from the street, held captive for several days and repeatedly molested on holiday in London. I met her 20 years on when she had breast cancer and had a double mastectomy and huge confidence and body image problems with her marriage on the rocks. She had no treatment or help to recover and her family kept telling her it was not a problem because it was a long time ago.

The past is NEVER over unless you have dealt with it properly.
It was not a surprise that she had PTSD when came to see me. In our first session I worked on her self-confidence so that she recognised just what a strong and resilient woman she was. She had escaped, she had survived, she had stayed in the workforce, married and had kids.

That is real strength.

In session 2, I helped her run a movie scene where she dealt with the past and was able to say or do whatever she wanted to the perpetrator. Then it was over at last and she was the powerful one who had fixed it. We had a third session where she planned a good future, leaving her feeling safe, healthy, confident and happy and the marriage is now very good.

Yes, I do follow clients up to check they stay ok.

People who are stressed, anxious or depressed need help. Many times it is just a buildup of ‘stuff” that happens. Or it is often things that happened in childhood that are never talked about that makes them more susceptible to becoming overwhelmed or to being bullied in the future.

The process is the same. You need to know and feel deep inside you that the problem is OVER and YOU had the power to fix it. Then you are SAFE

Stress and anxiety in business cost WHAT?


Stress and anxiety in business totals 100,000 hours of lost productivity and working time in Australia every year (a recent, 2018 study by Medibio).

This loss of work time  also strains professional relationships and limits career progression for the anxious individuals, while their employers lose money from lost work time, higher rates of sick leave and reduced productivity.

We spend a third of our lives at work, so it is no surprise that it’s a prime environment for anxiety. For small businesses this can be much worse because small business owners don’t really clock off in so many cases.

The modern nature of work, with competing deadlines, constant pressure, those mobile phones giving an “always-on” mentality can be overwhelming for people suffering from anxiety and even cause the anxiety.

When people are overwhelmed two things happen:

  • their brain automatically triggers the fight, flight, freeze stress response leading to anger, more fear, additional sick leave or they may even freeze and go very slow.
  • The other thing is that their memory is affected because the part of the brain that is overwhelmed is the same part that organises memory storage.

These are not deliberate responses and the people involved do not respond well to discipline or additional supervision, which may well exacerbate the situation. The person needs skilled help and this is what I offer.

People often don’t ask for help because they don’t want to disappoint and they are frequently too embarrassed to admit they need help. The thing is that one in three people do suffer from at least one mental health problem in their life so workplaces should be aware of this and alert to allow people to get help.

I am specialist stress and anxiety practitioner using a hypnotic treatment, TRTP, that allows an overwhelmed person to return calm and safe in only 3-4 sessions. It is very fast and gentle and does not involve going consciously back over stressful thoughts or situations.

Business stress and anxiety can be worse at this time of the year because of the pressures to complete so much by June 30th and often people are so busy they postpone treatment until things calm down a little often causing serious health outcomes.

A sensible step may be to book in for treatment in a month or two but if it suits your financial planning, you can pay and be invoiced this financial year – an EOFY cash flow option if that suits you. Please phone or email me if this option suits you.

In any case, don’t let anxiety and overwhelm build up. The sooner you get help the better.

These are the main areas I work in

  • Anxiety, stress, depression and PTSD
  • Weight loss
  • Stress and anxiety in business
  • Teenagers with stress problems as they approach the second half of the year and those all important year 11 and 12 results.
  • And of course Quit smoking

If you or people you know would like my help please either phone me on 08 8365 9513 or book in easily at either this web page http://quitquickadelaide.com/book-here or this one http://jeancannon.com.au/book-here-2 /

Jean’s been missing in action


It’s true Jean’s been missing in action for around a month. There’s been a long saga and it is all good now! Yippee!

Many of you will remember that last year I had some medical issues… a broken back followed a few weeks later by a hernia. Unfortunately when the doctors repaired the hernia they failed to notice that there was a hole in my bowel and after 10 days of that leaking internally I was rushed to the RAH in a life threatening state. I lost part of my bowel and slowly healed.

Unfortunately my abdominal wall did not heal properly around the incision and I was left with 6 incisional hernias and a lot of pain.

A month ago I had surgery to repair this and I needed to take some time out.

Yes I have seen a few clients but I have not been sitting up at my desk very much so the newsletters have been missing.

The thing is to accept that sometimes “stuff” happens and just go with the flow so that you don’t get overwhelmed because then you get up and about much faster.

It is not what happens in life that matters so much as how you pick yourself up and I am now up. As I said it is all good and I am back at work and looking for more clients.

I would love your help please to recommend me to people you know who need my help, especially if you are one of my past clients.

These are the main areas I work in

  • Quit smoking
  • Anxiety, stress, depression and PTSD
  • Weight loss
  • Business stress
  • Teenagers with stress problems as they approach the second half of the year and those all important year 11 and 12 results.

If you or people you know would like my help please either phone me on 08 8365 9513 or book in

Anger is a major cause of overwhelm


You suffer a huge stress response that affects your entire body when you get overwhelmed and today I want to talk more about this because anger is a major cause of overwhelm.

Anger is a normal protective emotion to alert you to the need to resolve a situation or danger. So it can be good but it can also be very destructive.

The big problem is when anger hangs on and is not resolved. It stimulates your entire body’s stress response and if it lasts too long it causes physical damage to your brain; especially to the parts of your brain that file and store memories and that’s why you many not remember what you wanted to say in an argument.

When anger activates your stress response it increases cortisol in your body and this causes nerve cells to let too much calcium in so that they fire more often which actually kills some of the cells. The neurones (nerve cells) in your memory areas, your hippocampus and prefrontal cortex, are particularly vulnerable to cortisol.

If anger lasts too long it increases aggressive behaviour and leads to depression.

Anger and stress affect also your cardio vascular system, your immune system, your digestive system, your eyes, your bone density and causes headaches

If you know angry people please get them some help or tell them to come and see me before they cause too much damage to themselves and those around them.

Stress is held in your body and it remembers


How did that calm person who always copes suddenly, out of the blue became massively stressed and have a breakdown? Nothing special happened.

The thing is that stress keeps adding up, like continually blowing up a balloon until it reaches breaking point and a lot of people are like swans gliding apparently serenely along. What you don’t see is how hard they may be paddling under water, especially when the currents are strong or the water turbulent.

The problem with that hidden turbulence is that stress is held in your body and your body remembers. When you reach your limit you get a reaction… usually not one you wanted.

STOP… call me to get get help before you get too overwhelmed. 08 8365 9513

Your reaction may be serious health problems and many serene “problem free” people suddenly develop obesity, autoimmune diseases, cancer or other illnesses. Or you may be like that person who suddenly “broke out” of their supposedly calm life and did something strange and unexpected, possibly dangerous. You may find yourself clinging to smoking, alcohol and/or drugs and find it harder than others to quit.

In many cases the problem was years before and has been suppressed. You may not even remember it. It may even be something seemingly harmless like a toddler being sent to stay with an aunt while Mum was in hospital, leaving the toddler with severe separation anxiety.

When animals are traumatised and freeze, they have a wonderful ability to release all the negative energy of the trauma with massive trembling and if they are prevented from doing this, they die. As humans we prevent this release and retain the trauma until it breaks out, makes us ill or kills us.

Like many of my clients, I was a swan, a successful scientist, business woman winning awards but with long term hidden trauma plus ongoing everyday stress that forced me stop and address it when I developed breast cancer several years ago (all gone now). Healing that was a journey that resulted in my being calm underneath as well as on the surface

That is when I decided to get treatment for trauma and also to do additional study as a clinical hypnotherapist then add special hypnotherapy for trauma on to my background as a neuro-physiologist and a cell biologist.

If you, or someone you know has this turbulence underneath, I can help. Just get it sorted! And I do it differently… without taking you back over the problems. If you went there once you don’t need to go there again. I use the theatre of your imagination to empower you to get rid of the problem.

The thing is that your mind can either kill you or it can heal you. Hypnosis can let you heal.

Why is work stress getting worse?


Work stress in increasing in our society and especially for business owners and managers. Stress builds up, a bit like continually putting more air into a balloon until it reaches bursting point or overwhelm.

You need real emotional resilience and strength to help you cope with all that day-to-day stress and overwhelm.

The thing is that when you become overwhelmed, the part of your brain that acts as a librarian, (hippocampus) stops filing things efficiently and calls in your “security guard” to turn on the Fight, Flight, Freeze mechanism.

Clearly Fight, Flight, Freeze is where anger, panic and procrastination come from along with the churned up stomach and other physiological symptoms preventing sleep and causing illness. Events and tasks to be done simply don’t get filed to they remain current so often disturbing your sleep at night.

Prolonged stress at work and financial problems and bullying often cause total overwhelm and even PTSD. Stressed and anxious business owners, managers as well as other busy personnel require real help and understanding instead of self medicating with the so common smoking alcohol abuse and even pill popping.

While keeping your business systems tight and simple certainly help you to reduce the day-to-day operational problems, many business owners and managers also take your problems and anxieties home each night impacting badly on your lives, health and even your families.

You can get real practical help here knowing that as well as being a specialist stress and trauma hypnotherapist I have had had 20 plus years of practical small business management with fourteen years as a business consultant in small to medium businesses.

Its actually not the problem – it’s a solution


Weight gain and excess weight is not a problem…

Yes, you did read that right. It is solution that your body has found to solve the real problem. So the first thing to do on any weight loss journey is to work out reasons WHY your body wants to insulate itself.

That inner change has to happen before sustainable weight loss. If the inner change does not happen, you stay on the diet yo-yo.

Your body is much more complicated that simply balancing food in with food and exercise out. The part of the equation that is missing is all that stuff in your mind.

This is where hypnosis works.

It is interesting that many people who have surgical gastric bands and stomach stapling lose lots of weight initially but end up putting it all on again in a year of so. Their weight was a solution and the problem was still there.

A gastric band and that includes a virtual gastric band which I can give you, can be a big help in curbing the initial hunger pangs that come as part of changing your eating habits.

However the most important thing is understanding your real problem and sorting that out with hypnotic help.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but you can start today to make a new ending.

Do you sometimes feel lost?


We get so wrapped up in other people’s issues, beliefs and ideas that we often lose sight of who we really are and what our own needs are.

We are never going to be fully effective until we sort this out and learn to love and care for our self the best.

I work with so many people who become overwhelmed by all the stuff they have to do for others and they also so often believe it is their duty to do everything else before they look after themselves.

The thing is that they are smothered by the beliefs and the fears that they grew up with. They bully themselves, telling themselves they are failures, saying sorry when anything goes wrong, even when it was nothing to do with them.

So many people are constantly helping others and even rejecting help when it is offered to them. There are times when we all need to step up and help others and there needs to be a balance where we need to allow ourselves to accept help.

Help in = help out is a good balance that should apply across all areas of our life.

The thing is that when you look after yourself properly you end up with more time and energy left to do the other jobs that need doing because you stop wasting time being anxious, indecisive and procrastinating.

Take the time to observe yourself, your behaviour, your reactions and especially what you say to yourself. Learn to be kind and helpful to you. Learn to listen to your inner voice when you are tired or overwhelmed.

If you need help give me a call on 8365 9513

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How do you cope when it all gets too much?

When it all gets too much you simply feel overwhelmed and this happens to all of us.

The trick is to put our hands out for help when this happens. If you don’t, your stress builds up and can cause major issues and illness over time. A large part of my work is about helping people who are overwhelmed and suffering the anxiety, stress or depression that this causes.

Being part of a community is a huge help as I can report only too well this week. I am selling my house and downsizing and thi...

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One moment everything is normal then suddenly…

One moment everything is normal then suddenly it changes.  It has happened and you are plunged into a whirl of fear, pain and bewilderment.

It may be a fall. A car accident, an out of the blue illness, a job loss, something happened to a friend or family member and suddenly life has changed.  You may have a few days or even weeks off but you need to get back to your daily survival, back on your normal treadmill.

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Do you know the pattern in your life?

You have a pattern in your life, we all do and it is usually pre-set for us by our parents. It carries forward in our choices as adults… Until we STOP…

… Something happens that shakes us up and sometimes we realise… and we change our minds.

Here I am exposing myself by sharing my pattern. My father said no to my choice to do medicine and decided I must be a teacher. He signed me up on a bonded scholarship but I did manage to do a science degree with nearly all medical subjects..

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